“My question today is how can I help a negative relative?”
Hello Mr. TT and V,
I’ve been reading your daily emails for some time now, and really appreciate all the work you have done in compiling this information and the writing of your articles.
That takes a lot of hard work and time, and I appreciate you both. I’ve worked through the Feel It Real Powerpack, Imagine, Power, and am currently reading Freedom. I can’t tell you how these materials have opened my eyes and shown me a brand new way to live, feel, and act.
I have a close relative who lives over 1000 miles away. She is a wonderful woman who has had a very difficult life. She has always been a worrier, and definitely sees the world in an extremely negative way.
Even things I bring up that I think are silly or funny…
…she can twist it all up into something to worry about or explain, or remember in a sad or awful way.
I want to help her, to ease her mind and give her some peace. But I also find that every time I talk with her, I feel like all the energy has been sucked out of me.
It’s exhausting. I have tried doing revision…
…while on the phone with her, hearing her say positive things and sounding happy and energized. I can keep myself in a fairly neutral place doing that, but I feel the negativity raining down from her and can’t seem to get myself back up to a positive place.
Do you have any suggestions or advice on how to:
- Help her see things in a more positive light without offending her.
- Help guard myself from the energy suck that a conversation with her causes me.
Thanks very much both of you for all you do! I’ll look forward to hearing your perspective on this.
Now I’m going to finish my delicious cup of coffee and do a Feel It Real session!
“Their mood never varies, so they see no change and recognize no law between the mood they are sustaining and the outer world they dislike. If they were told that their mood was causing the phenomena of their life, they would deny it. No one wants to feel that he is solely responsible for the conditions of his life, yet there is no other cause. God is the only cause and he is man’s own wonderful human imagination.” – Neville Goddard
One thing we’ve noticed is that many negative people – really do often seem to enjoy being negative.
And that trying to point out the positive to them, or trying to teach them a better way – is met with either outright resistance, or what you say gets subtly ignored and the conversation changed to a different – negative subject.
For many people, being negative – being a victim – being stressed out – is a strategy they have, TO GET ATTENTION from “polite” friends and relatives and even “polite” strangers.
And all that – sucks the energy out of life.
But here’s the most effective solution we have found.
“Interrupt them, if you have to – walk away, and imagine lovingly for them.”
THE MISTAKE MOST PEOPLE MAKE – is PASSIVELY listening to their story, the one that they’ve told anyone and everyone who will “listen”.
POWER POINT: INSTANT REVISION = FREEDOM!
(If you choose to let them continue telling their story – at least REVISE what they are saying – while they are saying it. Hear something LOVELY. Good on you for trying that with her!)
“Think about this, every single time you ALLOW anyone to repeat
their “suck story”, you MAKE them imagine it AGAIN.”
If you passively listen to it, you will be imagining it too. You can watch people do that – get sucked into the suck stories people tell – all the time.
So being “polite” and listening to the “suck story” they want to tell anyone and everyone who is “polite” is probably the least loving and most damaging thing you can do.
The most loving thing you can do to create change – is imagine lovingly for them – imagine lovingly for you – imagine lovingly for anyone you meet – – without wasting time listening to their “suck story”.
Because once we get this level of the teachings, you can’t help but notice – there is a decision that you get to make:
You can be “polite” and let them keep re-creating the gloom and the doom. Or you can Follow-The-Formula.
Many blessings to you Carol!
Mr Twenty Twenty and Victoria
Here is THE MASTER KEY to ENDING ANXIETY!
“The law has its positive as well as its negative side. I am not here to judge how you use the law, but leave you to practice it as you will. If you are in the habit of thinking negatively, you are not going to sustain the thought that you are all you want to be. You may hold it for a few seconds, and if it does not prove itself instantly you may deny it. But in order to play the game of life you must know the rules and apply them. And remember: as in every game, there are rules whose violation causes failure. You cannot deceive yourself, for God is not mocked; as you sow, so shall you reap.” – Neville Goddard